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Your Pain is Unreal
Pain is The Test, The Teacher, and the Mirror
Let's face it. We live in a world of comfort.
We long for a time where everything is more comfortable, and life's leisures are abundant, so we need not lift a finger.
As humans, it seems evident that we move towards the more natural path, avoiding any resistance or challenge because it doesn't feel right, or it is too hard.
We set boundaries with our words. "I don't like x", or I can't do x" or "I need x in my life to be happy".
Bordering on addiction, we tiptoe around the risks, and as such, we miss great opportunities to grow.
Pain is a Distorted Reflection
Physical pain sets up a boundary, and is a form of communication, the doctor of your body; it informs you of a problem. An indication that there may be something wrong. When there is no pain, you feel healthy, and your senses are neutral.
When there is pain, there is a spotlight on the issue. Your clarity and focus go to the pain.
Survival depends on this pain to steer us away from danger and towards safety. Pain tells you there is a problem so you can seek to fix the issue. Most of us avoid this pain and never come to realise what is on the other side of a painful experience.
Pain exists in your mind. The phenomenon is most apparent in the placebo effect, where sugar-pills can bring on a similar effect to morphine to relieve pain.
Have you ever had an experience where you don't feel great, but a doctor tells you that you are well, and then you start to feel okay?
Mental pain is a form of fear. Our minds have the power to cripple us into inaction because we associate the pain with ourselves instead of acknowledging the pain as being a reflection rather than an actual thing.
We struggle to rid ourselves of mental pains that may have been lingering for years. We attach a meaning to the experiences and associate deeply with the pain as part of our identity.
One relationship we had can ruin us for life and leave us with issues that carry on to all our subsequent interactions
Get Rid of Painful Mental Scars, and Move Past your Fear.
Avoiding pain is the natural thing to do. We numb our pain using stimulants or sedatives, relying on external elements. Whether it is some codeine, coffee or Korean drama, we seek out comfort and safety, escaping reality and absorbing ourselves into fake productivity.
What if we could accept the pain?
Is it possible to use our pain as a strength?
Moving towards pain is hard to do, especially in modern times, when we live in our bubble of comfort. Does your back hurt, maybe you need to stretch more? Are you scared to be alone with your thoughts? Perhaps you are clinging to a toxic relationship to avoid the fear of being alone? Become a student of your pain, and allow it to teach you the lessons you need to grow.
Instead of dressing up the pain to make it look pretty, we have the option to acknowledge the pain, and slowly disassociate from it to the point where we can move past it.
Pain is often telling us something and reflecting some subtle truths that we need to face.
Next time you feel the pull of pain and fear, will you move away and avoid the problem, or will you move towards the pain, knowing it might make you more resilient?